Getting your ex back after breaking up with them is hard. There’s no two ways about it, especially if you were the one to be broken up with. If your boyfriend/girlfriend decided to break up with you, then they were obviously willing to put themselves in an uncomfortable position to make their life easier/better overall and this means that it is going to be very hard, if not impossible to get them back.
So, how do you get your ex back quickly and actually keep them?
You’ve got plenty of time to work on yourself now after the breakup so take this opportunity life has given you to go and do something useful in the time you now have. Don’t sit around on the Internet reading loads of articles about getting your ex back like this one, go and start making yourself better, more confident and more attractive.
This means joining a gym if you don’t already go to one, learning some new skills and relaxing properly. Quit Facebook and Twitter, go out on a limb and get the phone numbers of the people you really want to stay in contact with. This way, you create better and more real connections with people which go much deeper than an electronic friendship will take you.
Taking a look at your last relationship and figuring out the problem areas will give you great insight on where to start making your life better. If you or your friends think you could be more fun and relaxed, try letting go of any preconceptions you have of activities you don’t think you like.
Like your taste buds the things that people enjoy change over time and when you might not have liked doing certain activities before, you might find out that now you actually do!
Getting in to the habit of trying new things and experimenting with your life will set you up well for the future.
Working hard on yourself is grueling and difficult but it is worth it in the end. After a few weeks/months of learning and practicing, you’ll be ready to have a chat with your ex about the relationship. Over the time you should have figured out what the problem in the relationship was.
Maybe, you didn’t listen to your ex boyfriend/girlfriend’s problems and instead simply tried to fix them without any empathy. If you noticed this was a problem, bring it up with your ex and show them how you have changed. It might take a few attempts for them to see the new you but persevere. Maybe the problem wasn’t your fault in the end and it was your ex boyfriend/girlfriend’s problem that led to them breaking up with you. Talk frankly about what you are going to do and how they can help you make things better.
It’s worth bearing in mind that the reason that you started to improve yourself was not only to get your ex back but also to make yourself great in the long run. Even if your ex never wants you back, it can be vindicating to show your ex what they are missing and how them breaking up with you was the best thing they could have done to help you along their way.
Make sure that you are aware of why you are doing things the you are doing and you don’t get lost in the chase of trying to get your ex back. Time and time again, people end up getting their exes back and realize a few weeks later that they didn’t really want their ex back. Especially after they improve themselves and realize the flaws that they never saw in their partners. This can be a horrible thing to see and it is quite depressing to see the sheer amount of couples that get back together only to break up again after a few weeks because either the problems in the relationship were not sorted out or that one of the people in the relationship didn’t realize what they really wanted.
Being mindful of your activities on a day to day basis and realising the real reasons for your courses of action is very liberating and I highly advise you try this at least once.
Friends With Benefits is something that we have thought all about over the years. Not only does your best friend know lots about you, you might have shared what you like in the bedroom and other facts that would make them a perfect candidate for being your partner or a Friend With Benefits. Whilst we have all thought about it at one time or another, not all of us act upon it and this is for good reason. We take a look at the positive and negative aspects of having a Friend With Benefits and why you might not want to go for it after all.
Friends With Benefits seems like the best idea for finding true happiness. You already spend lots of time together and know that you and your friend get on pretty well. The ideal Friends With Benefits relationship lets you hop in to bed with your best friend and nothing then comes of the relationship and you two stay the best of friends and live happily ever after, fooling around when both of you are not in relationships. Sounds great right?
Friends with Benefits hot scenes
Picking a Friend With Benefits
Oh the choices. Picking the right person increases the chances that you won’t ruin a good friendship by doing something bad in the time you guys are together. If you make sure that both parties are aware that it won’t turn in to relationship and pick someone who isn’t clingy or get attached easily, you will find the whole Friends With Benefits thing easier. Friends With Benefits style relationships often get broken because someone starts to develop serious feelings for the other person in the partnership and neither party wanted this in the first place.
In a Friends With Benefits relationship make sure you are both on the same page.
If you want to date the person instead, just ask them out like normal. As you already now them, they are likely to go on at least one date with you, just to see what happens. Turning a Friends With Benefits relationship in to a real relationship can be done but it’s often a bad idea and will fail fairly quickly. When your relationship isn’t built on the foundations that people create by communicating over their first few dates, it can be very difficult to make your relationship last.
Make sure you pick someone who has a lot of other things going on in their lives. This way they won’t be resigned to spending a lot of time with you are they have other things to do and won’t be thinking that they can just spend all their free time with you instead. Also, this way you pick busy people, who are often those who are not clingy in the first place. Double Bonus!
Avoid anyone you have dated before or anyone that used to have a crush on you. This keeps the risk level of feelings being developed lower and can make a Friends With Benefits relationship last longer.
Make sure you pick someone you enjoy spending time with. Of course, this doesn’t mean you should start sleeping with all of your different best friends, but if you pick someone you barely know and figure out you actually don’t like them in the long run, you might regret starting the Friends With Benefits relationship in the first place. In addition to this, don’t start a Friends With Benefits relationship with anyone who is closely related to your social group or relatives of your social group. This is a sure fire way to create gossip and ruin some friendships.
Whilst this sounds kind of shallow, picking someone who has done the Friends With Benefits relationship before means they won’t get clingy and waste all of their time with you. They will also have a reputation of being good in bed, which is the real reason you find Friends With Benefits anyway. Being honest with yourself and picking someone who knows what they are doing can save a lot of stress and keeps the Friends With Benefits interesting rather than frustrating.
Once you’ve found the right person, just flirt with them until they respond.
Set The Rules
Obvious casual sex rules are
- Don’t get attached
- Don’t tell anyone else
- Don’t see each other too often
- We are having fun and that’s all
- Get Sexual Health Testing done
- Tell each other if you sleep with someone else
In addition to this, you can choose to call the whole thing off as a term in your set of rules when someone starts to get attached. This way, the true pain of the relationship breakup doesn’t happen and both of you can part with dignity.
Don’t expect to stay great friends with this person. After a while you might start to notice things you don’t like about your Friends With Benefits and once you see these kind of things you will never forget them. Maybe their flaws are not enough to stop their positive aspects shining through, and you still can be friends, but don’t count on it. Friends With Benefits are highly volatile and you can’t invest any hope in to the relationship.
If one of you starts dating other people, immediately call the Friends With Benefits relationship off because if your new date finds out about it, they will be angry and possibly feel betrayed. In addition, not everyone is open minded about Friends With Benefits arrangements and you could be sabotaging your future attempts at relationships.
Having Friends With Benefits is fraught with risks, which can only be mitigated in rare occasions. Keeping aloof and uninvolved apart form the sex is the best way to go forward and when you decide to go for a Friends With Benefits style relationship, keep our tips in mind. Remember, keep yourself tested and have safe sex as you don’t necessarily know that your new Friend With Benefits isn’t doing the same thing with other people. Don’t get too involved and make sure you are okay with the possibility of losing the friend in the future. Friends With Benefits are usually best picked from a different social circle than the one you spend the most time in as when you do break up, it will be awkward and people will notice the change in emotions when you are both around. As long as you think about the right way to go ahead with a “Friends With Benefits” relationship and don’t get too involved, you should be alright. Good Luck in finding someone!
When you were just a little kid, you probably believed in all the children’s films idea of how love happens. Meeting the perfect woman was a thing that just happened passively. You would simply meet the perfect woman on the street and you would both fall hopelessly in love with on another, get married and live together to be happy ever after. Whilst this might happen for one in a million people, it probably hasn’t happened to you yet!
Imagine now what you know about dating and finding the right girl to settle down with. Imagine if you could tell some of those things to your former self. Here’s a few of the things we wished our parents had told us, instead of letting us daydream about fairytale romances and relationships when we were younger.
Treat Everyone with Respect
This shouldn’t even need to be noted, but it’s so important. By treating everyone with respect, no matter what their status in life is, you will be treated so much better by those around you. Women and men will see you being compassionate and helping people out will notice this and keep it in the back of their head. This is a great thing as you will be treated better yourself for being nice and generous with everyone. Give money to homeless people, treat bellhops with as much respect as you would the CEO of a Fortune500 company and the world will smile on you in return. Respect is a two way street and by giving out all of this positive energy the universe takes notice and showers it back onto you. Even if you don’t believe in karma and such, you never know what will happen down the road. That lowly bellhop could become your major business contact, maybe offering you a job or introducing you to someone powerful. People remember those who give respect to them and sometimes you will be the only person to treat them as a proper human being. Sometimes, people don’t realize how they are acting and treating other people. Don’t be like this, be mindful of the effects you have on your environment because it really makes a difference. Try it out, act nice to everyone and most of the time it will pay off, making it totally worth the effort.
Extending on from the paragraph above, being mindful of the situation you are in can help you decide what the correct thing to do is. Mindfulness is kind of like thinking about the act of thinking especially about those things that you have already forgotten to think about. Whilst this seems confusing to read, it’s pretty easy to do in real life, just by concentrating a little bit. Your mind tends to forget things and sends them to the unconsciousness so that you can order your brain to focus on whatever the task at hand is. Cycling is a fantastic example of your subconscious taking over the actions of your body. Once you learn to cycle, you rarely think about balancing and moving your feet to make sure you don’t fall off the bike. Obviously, this is a good thing for cycling. Your mind tends to get locked up thinking about things instead of you thinking about what whatever it is that is going on around you. When you are not being mindful, everything ends up being fuzzy. Being mindful of your surroundings allows you to make more correct decisions and be more empathic with people. When you are dating and meeting new people, your brain goes into overdrive trying to process all this new information. By calming down and taking the time to think the situation through, you can read people and form better relationships with the people around you. In addition to this, pausing before reacting means you have better control over anger, sadness etc.
Always be Honest
This one is pretty simple. Your parents probably already told you about this one, but whether you listened to this or not is a different matter. Being honest with everyone you meet sets you up with a great foundation to start building and improving relationships with. This is especially true if you are found to be dishonest as it can and will seriously damage your reputation with them and anyone they decide to tell. Being really honest in your personal and public relationship will help foster better relations and trust within them. This in turn can lead to you getting offered better work and better relationships. Whilst it can be tempting to bend the truth or try to wow someone with a little white lie, if there is any benefit, the reward will be short-lived. Most lies and dishonesty are uncovered and the damage is irreparable.
Exercise your Mind
Reading is one of the best things you can do for your downtime. It helps you relax, improves your ability to relate with other people and gives you something to talk about with dates and other people. Being told to read more and more as a child can help anyone, no matter what his or her profession is. The great thing about reading is you don’t even need to read things related to your profession to get the cognitive and social benefits of reading. You don’t even have to read non-fiction to get the benefits of reading. Find a nice story and curl up on the sofa!
Your mind is a potent weapon in business and high intelligence is a proven aspect of attraction. Wowing your date with some pertinent information and being able to hold deep, philosophical debates are both great ways to get dates and spend your time.
Run The Right Race
Running the right race is important in life. Imagine you had a goal to get better at self-defense and fighting. Some people would start by going to the gym and lifting weights to make themselves stronger. Whilst this will help them at fighting somewhat, it’s not anywhere near as useful as finding local martial arts lessons and beginning to learn that way. This is a great example for running the right race for what you are looking for. When you think a little more about the things you want from life, you can generally find a more efficient way to spend your time to get results. When you plan a little and run the right race, your final destination is a lot closer. Finding the right woman is easier when you have really thought about the type of person you wish to marry.
The lessons that you follow in life shape who you are and what you enjoy. If you could choose which of your life lessons to pass on to your children who would you pick? It’s a neat little exercise that can tell you more about yourself and the type of people you respect and feel connected to. Hopefully some of these tips will make you become more aware of your surroundings and help you make lasting bonds with other people. We all wish we had known these things as young adults and will be teaching them to our children as best we can.
Job burnout is whereby you feel physical, mentally and emotionally exhausted from work. In addition to this, you keep having doubt on the value of your work and in your own competency in getting the job done.
Factors that leads to job burnout
When you are not sure of what is expected of you at the work place; in terms of the extent of your responsibility and authority, which may lead you to doing more than your fair share of work. Thus you become easily worn out when doing your job.
When you have unhealthy working relationship at your work place; could be as a result of having a bad manager/boss, having a bully in the office or colleagues who belittle your contribution or if you finding the working condition generally unfriendly.
It can also come as a result of having a “poor job fit“. This is where your core interest and skills as an individual does not match with the type of job you are doing. Basically you don’t love your job, and naturally this can be frustrating.
When the type of job you are doing is always monotonous and very chaotic. If the job requires you to be consistently attentive, highly energetic without giving you time to relax or have fun while doing it.
What are some of the signs that you are having a job burnout?
The following are some of the telltale signs that you are experiencing a job burnout:
You attitude towards your job has changed from being enthusiastic to being critical and cynical. When you arrive to work on Mondays, all you can think of is Friday, or in the morning all you think of is the lunch time break or departure time when you’ll get out of your work place.
You drag yourself in getting things started and accomplished. You become great at coming up with good excuses than putting effort in meeting deadlines and achieving good results.
You are very impatient and quite irritable with your colleagues, clients or customers. You no longer put an effort to make others satisfied and you easily pick quarrel with them.
You have no excitement or energy in your work. You would rather be passive in meetings and only do what is required of you; without being active or psyched up going the extra mile in your work.
Your body has some unexplainable aches like the backaches, headaches or other types of physical complaints. You feel generally unwell when you are around your work place.
How to overcome job burnout
Try taking a different role. If you are constantly dealing with one type of duty, task or responsibility, try to see if it can be rotated to another competent person, with whom you can easily change roles with.
Get your inspiration back. You can achieve this by reading a book, listening to some music or listen about somebody who did the same type of work for a long time, and they persevered through its ups and downs and made it to success nonetheless.
Be real and truthful to yourself. Acknowledge the fact that you are exhausted and starting to slack in your work and that you should take corrective measures before you ruin your career.
Lastly you need to take control on how much work you handle in your workplace. If there are too many meetings, responsibilities, long working hours. Try to reduce them to a level which will not lead to you straining yourself.
Job burnout can be a real threat to your future career development as well as to the success of the organization you are working for. Managers and staff must make deliberate effort to solve the problem of job burnout, and the approach taken should be friendly to both the boss and the employee. Extreme measures such as firing or quitting the job should not be the solution.
There are 5 ways to increase the value of your home – that won’t cost a fortune! This is regardless of what one intends to do with his or her mortgage. As a matter of fact, there are those who will be improving them in order to make great profits, and there are also those who may like to improve their homes just for the purpose of increasing their overall values. One ought to know that this can be achieved without necessarily sinking a lot of money in such homes.
The truth of the matter is that one can always use some tips which of course do not cost even a single penny or other inexpensive means in order to improve the value of home. So in case it was to be resold, then a prospective buyer would find it ideal purchasing it. Therefore, following below guidelines is of great essence.
Eradication of any junk
First and foremost, you should consider eradicating any junk or clutter which may stand on your way as a stumbling block or eyesore to any potential buyer. Clutter makes the client see the house to be small in size, yet this is not the actual size. Therefore, for a house to be accepted willingly by a potential buyer, it should be free from clutters. This way, it will be viewed by anyone to be larger than its actual size. In the same capacity, establishing a unit for storage is equally a way of increasing the value of a real estate.
Making the land flat through landscaping
Considering the 5 ways to increase the value of your home – That won’t cost a fortune! Landscaping is another vital factor that should not go unmentioned. This is simply due to the fact that through landscaping, there is a way in which a curb is created. Such a curb can be very appealing for either a passerby thus seeing the interest of buying the home, or could be appealing to any potential buyer, leaving him/her with no option, but just to produce money in exchange for the apartment.
Make the walls look fresh and neat by painting
Using a new and fresh paint coat is another way of adding value to a real estate. In order to avoid the unnecessary expenses that could be incurred, one is expected to do the painting by self. There is no need of looking for professional painters once you have the ability to paint.
Refurbish the kitchen to look better
For many prospective clients to accept a house, many of them do focus a lot in the kitchen. Owning a kitchen which appeals to the eyes is one other way of improving a home. This way, it stands chances of being accepted with no hesitation.
Beautify the compound with flowers and mulches
Last, but not least, in order to add value to an apartment, planting trees, flowers and mulches is no exception in this field. When this is done, a customer finds it ideal to buy such a home. These are just, but to mention a few.
Having a belly fat seems to be a nightmare to everyone who has it. Everyone wants to have an even tummy which appears attractive belly. Achieving this is not as easy as it sounds. Many people have turned to other methods of flattening their bellies such as starving and using fat burners, diet pills and other appetite supplements, which can only be effective when you incorporate some exercises. The key to loosing belly fat much faster is always being in a position to focus on doing the correct exercises that will ensure the fat accumulated on the belly is burned. There is need of doing these exercises fervently and over and over again to facilitate incredible outcomes. Here are some superlatives workouts that will help you melt fat away from your belly forever;
Using upright crunch for legs
In this case, you are required to lie down on a level place where your legs are stretched out but bending your knees to some extent. After placing yourself in that position, you put your hand at the back of your head while attempting to move up the cheek where your belly is. You should however, be careful not to curve the entire body sideways because it could lead to a bad wrench in the back. For the efficacy of the exercise, maintain on keeping your jaw in the air and focus on flexing the muscles of the belly. This exercise when correctly and consistently done can help you lose the lower belly fat quickly.
Riding a bicycle
This is also another best exercise of melting calories accumulated in your belly as well as matching the belly muscles at the same time. First, it requires that you be in possession of a bicycle and know how to ride it. When riding a bicycle, you burn the belly fat while bending your body and through movement peddling muscles. For you to burn that belly fat rapidly, you need to conduct speed bicycling and ensure that you do it over and over again at least every day. If you enjoy being indoors, you can as well purchase a stationary bicycle which you can use in doing this exercise from your compound. The good thing with riding bicycles as an exercise of burning belly fat quickly is that it double as a great and fun way to exercise.
Using ball crunch for this workout
Here, the ball is placed on a level ground and you adjust your body so that you remain lying curved on your rear side and your hands remain at the back of your head. After that, lift your shoulders up but still contract your abdominal muscles and ensure that you balance on the ball. Repeat this exercise severally for about three to four sets. This exercise of using exercise ball however should be performed by someone who is healthy, fit and free from any neck and spinal problems to minimize chances of injury effects. This exercise helps in loosing belly fat and augment quality muscles on your stomach.
Some of the best approaches of acquiring that desired flat and toned tummy is by doing the described exercises continuously and you will love the results.
Say you’ve been looking for a relationship for a long time now and you happen to meet this seemingly heaven sent guy. He makes you feel great about yourself and seems to be great relationship material. However, before you take a risk with this one it’d be a smart move to consider whether or not you’re a rebound. In relationships, it is definitely unfriendly territory and you wouldn’t want to unwittingly become one. So here are a 3 tips to tell if he’s with you for the wrong reasons:
Listen for Signs of Bitterness
Anyone looking to enter a relationship should be in a positive disposition. Hints of negativity about relationships early on are definitely telltale signs of bitterness. If you notice any resentment towards relationships it’s a sign you should take heed of. When someone is bitter it shows that the person still carries quite a bit of emotional baggage from a previous relationship. And you definitely don’t want to bear that burden. So if you hear him saying, “all women are gold diggers” or my ex was such a tramp, you might want to save yourself from the inevitable trouble and just back out of the relationship.
If the guy you’re seeing has apparent issues with long-term commitment, well he might just be your average guy. However, if you start noticing that he can’t even make relationship decisions that define the bounds of your relationship or keep to a promise to have a date with you on Saturday night, you might want to consider your choice guy. It could be a sign that he’s still hung up on the single life, or isn’t ready to let go of the lifestyle he had with his ex. Most rebound relationships are undefined. Usually the newly single party to the relationship is not that willing to offer real commitment or security to his new partner.
Take notice of the Ex
While creating the avenue for comparisons is definitely, not healthy you will want to know his relationship with is ex. Are they still talking? Are they friends? Does he continually talk about his ex? Does he make weepy comments every time about his previous relationship? Does he habitually make comparisons about you and his ex? If he does then he’s still hung-over. And I need not remind you that this is bad news.
Cyberstalking your new prospect can also serve to protect you from harms you might have to deal with in the near future. Is he still “in a relationship” with his ex on Facebook? Are their pictures of fonder memories together still neatly visible in a mushily titled album? If you notice these things, you might want to have a talk with him about it. However, to tell you honestly, it reeks of unresolved relationship issues, making you, a very ripe rebound.
You definitely don’t want to become the rebound girl. No matter how amazing this guy seems to be, so before you become one, take a good look at your prospect and make an assessment. You don’t want to screw yourself over by becoming this guy’s rebound.
If you currently own an iPhone and considering purchasing a digital camera as well, it is important to know the pros and cons of the photo capabilities in each device. Since the latest iPhone generations (mostly iPhone 4 and 5) offer a powerful camera with high resolution photo taking features, you might be wondering whether you need to buy a separate digital camera as well.
So this guide is going to help you discover the major pros and cons of using your iPhone camera vs. having a separate digital camera to take photos. Knowing this information helps you save money and only invest on the best cost-effective digital camera solution that you need.
1. Higher Megapixel Resolution and Picture Quality
While iPhone 4S and the new iPhone 5 offer a reasonable 8-megapixel camera, the fact that whether this photo resolution is enough for you or not totally depends on you. For everyday casual picture taking, the iPhone camera offers a good enough clarity and lighting in order to make beautiful and sharp photos.
However if you are a fan of professional photography and care a great deal about the minor details of making that perfect photo to capture a perfect moment, you may want to invest in buying a more advanced digital camera offering a higher megapixel resolution.
2. Save Money on Buying a Separate Digital Camera
If you are on a tight budget, having an iPhone plus investing in a digital camera may not be your best. You can easily save hundreds of dollars by simply taking advantage of your iPhone built-in camera that offers a reasonable, high quality picture taking capability for personal use.
3. Easy Convenient Access Anywhere You Are
When you own a stand-alone digital camera, there might be times when you are rushing out and forget to bring your camera with you. Whether it is going on a vacation, attending your friend’s birthday party, or simply going out for a lovely walk on the beach in the morning to watch the sunrise, you may later wish you had taken your camera with you.
But when using your iPhone camera features, you can simply rest assured that your camera is always right there in your pocket. Because few people – no matter how forgetful they may be – forget to bring their phones when walking out of the house. So you will never miss out on a beautiful photo moment ever again.
4. Share Your Photos with Friends on Social Networking Sites Easily
When taking photos using the iPhone camera, you can easily share them with your friends and family via email and also social networking sites – such as Facebook. Posting your photos online on Instagram and other online photo sharing services is also just a click away. Digital cameras, however, do not provide wifi connectivity and photo sharing options.
5. Professional Lighting Effects to Take More Professional Photos
While there are some apps on the iPhone to edit and improve your photos later, you cannot do it on the spot when shooting a video or making a photo. However, almost all digital cameras come with advanced light adjustment and powerful zooming features that help your photos look more vivid and beautiful.
So if you are considering using an iPhone built-in camera vs. a stand-alone professional digital camera, you can review the top 5 pros and cons above to help you with your decision.